I received ten dollars in a birthday card last week. Except it wasn't my birthday. One of my aunts had put the money in Mom's birthday card along with a note instructing her to give it to me.
I found it quite a remarkable gesture. Especially considering this is an aunt I rarely see, Mom's eldest sister, who is widowed and has ten kids and umpteen grandkids of her own, not to mention twenty or so nieces and nephews. Yet here she is sending a note and ten bucks to her thirtysomething nephew she sees on Decoration Day, sometimes Christmas, and maybe another time or two during the year at most.
It really affected me.
It made me think about the alarming rate of the passing of time, and how I need to make more of an effort to see family and loved ones more often.
I thought about my grandmother, how almost eerily similar she and my aunt are, and how so many of her good qualities were obviously passed on.
I thought about how excited I would have been years ago, when I was in high school, or college even, to get ten bucks in a card.
Then I thought about how today, ten dollars won't buy much of anything. But if my six other aunts would get their act together and all made the same gesture... I'm kidding.
I felt guilty that she had sent me any money at all.
I thought about how maybe this is one of those things you don't directly repay, but instead just pass on to someone else. And I made a vow to myself that I would do the same someday for my nieces, nephews, and other loved ones.
I thought about how a hundred dollar bill would not have meant nearly as much. There was something simple and pure and sweet about those two fives.
I thought about how thankful I am for family. Even family I don't see that often.
Especially family I don't see that often.
I'm thankful there are still some things in this world you can't put a price on. Things that are worth so much more than money and always will be. Things like a few words scribbled in love on a little piece of scrap paper...
Give this to Bone. And tell him I love him."No, I ain't forgot how I was raised, but I'm living way too fast. It's a roller coaster ride up and down..."
Labels: family, Mom
As if I needed something else to trigger some tears today :*) You have a way with words, Bone, that no one else can come close to. I hope that's a lesson you'll learn someday, too. With or without $10 in a card.
Family is wonderful. Two $5's or not!
so very true.
Charlotta-love: First of all, that is very sweet of you. Secondly, how dare they not have grandparent cards! I remember seeing a Mother's Day card one time for "ex-daughter-in-law." What!
Lass: You said it. The money has already been spent. But the little piece of paper will be kept and cherished.
Melanie: I think that's a wonderful idea :)
Sizzle: Thanks, Miss Sizzle.
Seriously that was a very sweet thing for her to do. Maybe you could send her something nice in return.
and about the Jevhova's Witnesses...seriously the guy said it was for a Pizza delivery!
and about the boyfriend...I sure hope that if any girl ever said that about you, you learned how to be better.
Poor Nanna, downtown alone.
Seriously, we should have a Seinfeld Smackdown between the three of us. I call evens.
I graduated from medical school without student loans (even though I got married half-way through undergrad, too)!
The catch? I had to pay for my kid(s) college educations.
My daughter, of course, chose the most expensive school on her list. (At least she got a partial scholarship, and maybe she'll get more funds next year, since she made the team for a well-funded NCAA Sport--Women's Crew). But what made it all worth it was the first time she came home after school started and she sat hubby and me down and said, "I just want to say THANK YOU. All my friends were telling me how much they were going to owe when they graduated, and I just sat there, keeping my mouth shut. I didn't have the heart to tell them what you were doing for me. I really appreciate it, and I'll make sure you get your money's worth."
Now I've gotta find those friends and pay them the $20 I owe them. :wink:
It is the little things that matter most and too often we forgot how strongly a few heartfelt words can affect those around us.
Thank you for reminding us. Maybe we'll all be a little free-er with our scrap paper for a while.
Yeah, I've already been thinking I need to do something for her.
Mks: Yeah, that's a lesson in itself, for me anyway. They always found the time, when I never can seem to.
Pia: Thank you.
Sylvia: Who the heck is no reason
I'm glad you asked, because I was about to :)
OK, I've got odds. Straight choose. Three takes it. No disputes. Ready?
Gay: You're very fortunate to be able to do that. Sounds like a wonderful thing to pass on.
Avery Laine: I think the whole thing served as sort of a reminder and wake-up call for me. And I sure needed it.
There is a nice 93-year-old lady, who thinks of my parents as family and sends them cards on holidays or 'just because', and in the cards there is $1 each (with names written in curly handwriting on them) for me and my siblings.
I don't want any part of it. For me, it's enough to know they cared enough about me to remember me even though I don't deserve their kindness.
It's the "Hope you're doing well. Come by and see us sometime" that I cherish more.
And thanks for the link!
doesn't get much better than that.. :)
you are blessed.